Neurotypicals: Keep Your Word to Someone Who’s Autistic

One of the biggest differences between Autistics and neurotypicals is that neurotypicals don’t understand that we Autistic are always asking why you can’t mean what you say and keep your word or stick to what is agreed upon and just not make excuses for it to justify it.

Many Autistics, both children and adults, have an issue with people who say they are going to do something and then don’t. It’s lying, no matter how much you try and sugarcoat it or make it not as big of a deal as it is. Especially when you are doing it to someone who is Autistic as we got to mentally prepare ourselves for things and make ourselves want or be excited about it and when we put that mental effort in for nothing it makes us feel like we are unappreciated for our efforts.

Now there are some Autistics who will bash neurotypicals for this and just call them liars and bullsh*tters and I do not agree with this approach because if we who are Autistic want understanding and acceptance from our fellow neurotypicals than we need to be willing to understand and be accepting of the fact that this not making a big deal about or sugarcoating of lying to people by saying one thing and doing another, not sticking to agreements that are made or keeping their word is the byproduct of the society that taught them to be that way.

And yes my fellow neurotypicals, you have been taught that saying one thing and doing another, not sticking to agreements that are made or keeping their word is not a big deal, to make excuses and scapegoat this form of lying for many years and I do understand that it’s not your faults and that is why I am writing this article to help raise awareness and help make things better for all of us.

In the end, it’s not like we Autistics are asking anything out of you that we don’t expect from ourselves and many of us who are Autistic tend to do as we say we’re going to because we want that from others including our fellow neurotypicals, whether that be from our friends, family or significant others. It’s not really asking a lot out of neurotypicals to give back the same respect we Autistics give you.

So just keep your word, if you say you are going to do something or you want something from us or whatever the case maybe, just mean what you say, keep your word, do it and don’t make excuses for it. It’s that simple. It’s what we Autistics do and we get judged so harshly for it and made out to be dramatic and childish for just wanting the same respect back that we give our neurotypical fellows and that just doesn’t help anyone.

And to my fellow Autistics out there, please try not to be so harsh about our fellow neurotypicals, try to be the understanding and acceptance that we want by realizing that doing stuff like this is the byproduct of our messed up society and that if you really matter to your neurotypical friends, family or significant others, they will try to be understanding of this and try to do their best to be respectful of it and try their best to do as they say.