It Is Not Easy to Call Out Those You Love

Ricky James Alan Bryant
4 min readFeb 7, 2021

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It is not ever easy to call out people you love and care about. But we cannot turn a blind eye to the wrongs people do, we live in a society that tends to want to turn a blind eye and think that forgiveness should automatically be given instead of earned.

We live in a world of silent complicity and hate on those who try and speak out and care for themselves and others.

I take no pride in calling out Liam Bennett, who I see as a dear friend and who I love deeply. I was nothing but a good friend and pup to him and because of his relationship he has slandered me across Facebook and people stand idly by and let it happen cause they think that it is best for me to let go and move on. It hurts me to put Liam out there to people cause he wants to act the victim in this when the true victim is me.

Yet, I know my story and everything I been through and how every time I have moved on and let go I have gone from one bad situation to the next. It gets really old and so I try to do my best to take my own personal situations, tell the story from my side and try and put the lessons I am learning and the things I am seeing out there so others can learn from it and show my own personal observations.

I want people to see that just cause one thing works for some people doesn’t mean that path is for everyone. But I also try and show how some paths are a path of complicity.

We live in a very dark and scary world and the sad thing is we cannot continue to turn a blind eye to it. Not every person can handle the evils of our world and instead of thinking about ourselves and how we would handle a situation, we need to change our ways of thinking and recognize and realize that every person is different and unique and that there are people out there who want different things and different outcomes. We shouldn’t ever bash people for wanting to be different and wanting things to be different.

Our world shapes everyone differently and their experiences of this world also shape them differently.

The truth comes down to do people actually accept these differences and understand that there are people out there who are sick and tired of problems and wrongs that people just feel the only solution to is to ignore it as if that will make the problem will go away? From my own experiences that doesn’t work, at least for me and I am sure for some others out there that there is a good possibility that they feel the same as I do.

Should we who seek to have a different world where accountability and justice is normal and people can feel that if they are wronged that the wrongdoer, whether the person is doing something morally wrong, homophobic, racist, sexist, or other forms of discrimination are going to suffer the consequences of their chosen actions be silenced because it doesn’t suite the “norms” of our society that has chosen silent complicity?

If anyone truly looks at our history, silent complicity has led to the murders and suicides of thousands throughout time and can we honestly sit there and just ignore this fact?

People who speak out should not be shamed, some of the people we call out could be our very own loved ones or someone we hold deeply to our hearts and it can hurt us to call these people out but we chose to love in a very different way, for like parents who love their children we chose to love by holding those who do wrong, loved one or not, accountable because we see real love of others as trying to help them change their ways for their own sakes and for the better of others.

I know for myself I don’t want anyone hated, I care for those who wrong me just as I care for others who don’t do wrongs or are victims of the wrong and sometimes the victims of the wrongs who reach out aren’t reaching out to be told how to go about their lives but because they want accountability and justice. And all I have to ask is, is that honestly wrong of them to want that godgiven right? And yes, justice is a right that we are allowed to have, however, many are denied this right.

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Ricky James Alan Bryant
Ricky James Alan Bryant

Written by Ricky James Alan Bryant

Fighting against homophobia and social injustice.

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