If You Have Mental Issues And Want to Be A Pup, Don’t Join the Community
This is a fair warning to anyone who has mental issues and considering joining the pup community. DON’T! It is a very toxic and mentally unhealthy community for anyone with a mental disorder.
Things “Pups” Aren’t Doing.
First and foremost for a group of people who are suppose to be emulating (a word here which means to imitate) an animal such as a dog, they truly miss the mark of what a pup or dog does.
Dogs are loyal, protective, compassionate and loving creatures and the pup community does a very bad job of doing any of these things.
My Own Personal Experience Within the Community
From my own personal experience joining in on the pup community, there is a lot of tolerance for bullying and immoral things within the community.
For example, the guy who was my alpha, people encouraged him with this guy he met online, spent a week with together, slept with on their first night together, moved quickly in with after just that week together and got quickly engaged to. Now to anyone with any morality or anything anyone would say that is going way too fast and would be wondering what is really going on here. But nope, they encouraged it.
I also watched the guy who was suppose to be my alpha’s boyfriend, stab him in the back by letting someone called their handler lie on him to his pack’s high ranking members and overstepped his position as beta by telling me as my alpha’s pup to not defend my alpha from being lied on. I also watched this boyfriend not drop the handler after the handler dropped his boyfriend, my alpha, as his pup. Now from what I was told by some other pups, that’s not an okay thing to do, his boyfriend flat out refused to drop the handler, despite still wanting to be with his boyfriend while some situation we weren’t fully aware of was going on. Regardless of what that situation was, what the boyfriend did was still wrong and nothing made it okay. At least from what I was told. And the guy who is suppose to be my alpha refused to even give me a chance to say anything to him on the subject or what the guy did or anything, he sided with this guy and then turned around and lied on me to a good majority of the pup community on me and put something he drug me into all on me, didn’t even mention what he drug me into against my will or anything. Lot of pups who know what had happened when my alpha did this were shocked and disgusted he did all that over a guy to a pup who’s new to the community. And that’s really gonna make me approve of his relationship with this guy and think it’s a good thing for him. NOT! All that got me accused of being crazy and a stalker.
Then this guy who’s suppose to be my alpha defends this dude at every chance he gets, everyone within the community knew how loyal and protective I am of my alpha at this point cause I was doing everything to stand up for him and being everything a dog is suppose to be to one of their own, and claims weeks after this boyfriend of his goes around telling everyone he’s not mine or anyone else’s alpha anymore that the boyfriend did it on his orders, granted I don’t believe this, but even if it is true, that doesn’t make him any better or look good cause from what was explained to me that’s not how it works, the alpha is the only one who can tell others he is alpha to that he is no longer an alpha, not his boyfriend or any other person for that matter cause the relationship between an alpha and their pups is a very personal thing.
He also turned around and accused me of pressuring him to do things I didn’t ever ask him to do, did I ever wish he would or think it, yes, but I didn’t ever vocalize it to him cause I didn’t think it was appropriate. All I ever did was try to make him feel special but apparently he misread that. And then trying to make me change and be at fault for his boyfriend being jealous and upset about us talking and upset he’s talking to other pups he’s an alpha to? That was too far.
So much for loyalty, love and compassion, huh? And this isn’t the tip of the iceberg, other things I’ve experienced is one pup who’s popular on TikTok going around claiming he considers all pups his family but he treats a lot of us who try and get to know him like crap for having a difference of opinion, or accidentally not taking his advice or trying to explain how wearing a face mask for too long while having social anxiety it can start choking you. Pup turned and abandoned me after that even though I loved them like a brother and they were part of the reason I started my petition and I stood up for them and stood by them.
Again, so much for loyalty, love and compassion, huh? And then you got the fact they allow people who are bullies, abusers, liars and so much more, like my alpha’s current boyfriend, and people who retort to name calling and insults and it’s like for a group of people who are suppose to have mental disorders, this seems very strange this is happening.
And I was the only one who made noise when someone did something wrong and I always stood up for my alpha and yet what I gave, I did not get returned. Look at my alpha, I’ve been nothing but loyal to him and protective of him yet he sides with a jackass and turns everything on me, lies on me to the community and defends the dillhole and he also doesn’t trust me even though I didn’t give him much reason not to. Talk about ouch.
And then he gives me an ultimatum to keep him as an alpha. Why would I want an alpha who’s gonna side with a jerk and accept a relationship where I’m getting abused in so many ways for his boyfriend’s actions and some of them are even my supposed alpha’s own actions? What alpha doesn’t listen to their pup who watched all the bad things his boyfriend did behind his back and then turn around and lie on his pup who people were calling his loyalist pup? The only reason I stuck around was cause I’d hope he would wake up and realize who the guy was and what he was becoming but he’s refusing and hurting me and the relationship was becoming more and more toxic cause I’m being the villain when the real villain was his boyfriend. I mean what does my feelings for him got to do with his boyfriend’s wrongful actions? Did my love for him force his boyfriend to do all those wrongful things? I’m not really understanding his logic but there you have it. And with everything I’d already endured cause of this relationship and things I didn’t even do that his boyfriend did and I got blamed for and getting called crazy and a stalker, I think I’ve endured enough and shouldn’t be pushed to approve of a relationship that caused all that. That’s just asking too much.
As I said, so much for loyalty, love and compassion, huh? All the things that make a dog, a dog people aren’t doing and when a dog is threatened or one of their own is threatened, they attack. No one is gonna do that where my alpha is concerned and the wrong befalling on me, no one’s gonna stand up for me. And sadly that happens a lot in the pup community and when you do stand up for someone, you get grief for it. It’s like you can’t win no matter what you do. Honestly, if these people are gonna emulate an animal they need to look into the animal they are emulating before claiming to be one.
In conclusion
So yeah with my own personal experience in the pup community I can tell you, if you have a mental disorder, stay out of this toxicity cause it’s not worth adding more problems to the ones you already got. I don’t do this or put this out there to be a jerk to anyone, I put this out there to protect others from going through the crap I’ve gone through and endured while trying to be a pup.
I killed my pup persona and packed away my pup hood after my alpha did what he did where his boyfriend is concerned cause if this is honestly what being a pup is all about, taking the blame for another person’s actions, being made wrong for loving and caring, watching people bullying and insult people over differences of opinion, encouraging people to rush relationships and so much more immoral things, I sure as heck don’t want to be associated to a community like that.
Truth is, you don’t need a hood or even be in the community to be a pup, as long as you are a decent, caring, compassionate, loyal and loving person, and you feel you are a pup, than you’re a pup, just know a good majority in the community are nothing but bad imitators. So yeah just don’t join the community for your own personal mental health. I don’t want to see anyone go through what I did.
